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A recurring conversation I find myself a part of, is whether technology has marked the end of connecting with people or opened up a way to connect that would not have been possible in days gone by.
Louise wrote on Monday in her post 52 Acts of Grace l week 2 about how difficult it is to share even a smile with people on the sidewalk or C-train, because most folks seem to be staring at the tiny screen on their cell phone.
I’m sure we can all share tales of being at meetings or out with friends only to be interrupted or completely ignored because someone is texting or Facebooking or Tweeting or taking selfies or…
I’ve been guilty of it myself.
I have a friend who admonishes me every time I take a picture, convinced that I’m missing the real-life-sized experience when I’m looking at it through the screen of my Blackberry Q10.
And I admit that any picture I’ve ever taken pales in comparison to the beautiful beach, mountain range or sunset I view in person with my own eyes.
Maybe while trying to capture the moment, I lose it all together.
And then there’s safety!
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been walking down the street and I have to stop dead in my tracks, because the person approaching me is staring at that screen, completely unaware of what’s going on around them. I cannot guess if they will go left or right and so I stop. When they finally sense my presence it shocks them – some have even given me dirty looks!
More frightening are the times I cross the street and someone making a right-hand turn while using their device narrowly avoids hitting me with their car. I’ve learned to make eye contact before stepping into the cross walk.
So when I read Louise’s post on Monday, I mentioned I was texting on Easter Sunday. I couldn’t be with my family. My brother and his family and my mom were having lunch at the Willows Inn in Hudson, Quebec and the next best thing to being there was texting each other Easter wishes and real-time photos.
So you see sometimes technology does connect us. Only problem is, I was walking while texting and almost tripped on a crack in the sidewalk!
Below, the pictures we took and shared in real-time
- Mom and Mike at Willows Inn
- Me on the corner of 14th Str and 13 Ave SW
~ HUMP DAY CHRONICLES ~
So what do you think? Does technology connect or disconnect us?
I have a love/hate relationship with technology! It’s fabulous at times, I love connecting with people from all over the world thru blogging. But I hate the major distraction it has become for people over dinner with friends, while driving car and it’s intrusive nature at times.
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Yeah, me too Amy. ❤
Diana xo
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I can see both sides here. I do communicate a lot with my children and sister by text or email and so it is my life-saver as they live at a distance from me. That is where my ‘love’ for technology (for reason of communication) ends and I do think many people’s worlds have been taken over by social media and their smart phones instead of interacting with others face to face.
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Very true Elizabeth! ❤
Diana xo
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I guess it’s deliberate consciousness of knowing when it’s best to use technology vs. simply being in the moment with a real person before you or travelling down a transportation corridor.
My partner recently relunctantly bought an iPhone because a contractor whom his firm works for, asked him to. Now dearie, frequently monitors his email outside of home. His contract job ends this year. (And he is in retirement mode for last few years..so this obsession doesn’t need to be forever.)
I use technology as a cheap, fast way to be in touch with family outside of my city. It is helpful when at home and I can focus on them totally.
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Yes, there’s that balance theme again. Jean I hope your partner does not become too comfortable with that phone. It seems we get used to it and then it’s hard to give it up! ❤
Diana xo
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Technology kind of does both, doesn’t it, Diana? For every instance I can name where it connects us, there is an example of how it separates us.
But only for technology, I most likely would never have met you! ❤
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I know, it’s so true Jennifer – I love this beautiful group of people in the WordPress community and I too, am glad I met YOU. ❤
Diana xo
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Can’t live with it, can’t live without. Everything in moderation I suppose but every now and then we get the balance wrong.
My son is away since January and it’s such a comfort to know I can call him anytime and even see him onscreen if I wish.
Although I do often wish I’d not ever got a smart phone. It’s too late now though.
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Yeah once you have one, there seems to be no going back Tric! ❤
Diana xo
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Connection? Absolutely!! Only thing is, we have to be aware of when it’s appropriate – don’t do with your device what you wouldn’t ever consider doing in person and give total focus to one “conversation” (aka “life”) at a time…
And text CAN wait until you’re available; right?; )
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Right! Thanks for weighing in Deb. ❤
Diana xo
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It sort of does both, but I think when you meet up with someone for a drink or coffee, it should stay in the bag as face to face is important. Everything in moderation … one can get obsessed with it.
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Yes Ute, moderation is important! ❤
Diana xo
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Yes both! I love the cartoon Diana! I see so many of my daughters age group out socializing, making no eye contact with one another, it’s not good for any of us ha ❤️❤️
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Yeah, it’s kinda sad Karen. ❤
Diana xo
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Both. BOTH!
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BOTH!!! (smiling) I agree David. ❤
Diana xo
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I think it can do both Diana. I do like taking pictures. But when I’m with people I don’t want to constantly be on my phone either. But now, with having such technology, there are some who I think believe we should be responding quickly with each text. 😉
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I think we might have to start a phone etiquette class Colleen! 😉 ❤
Diana xo
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THAT would be a great idea! 😉
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It is 6 of one thing half a dozen of something, meaning it does and it doesn’t, many young people are bloody rude always on their phone or tablet which can be rude at times. I don’t like to take phone calls when I am at the checkout
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Me neither Jo-Anne, or out for dinner with someone, or in a meeting, or …. ❤
Diana xo
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“Does technology connect or disconnect us?”
Yes!
As your own testimony shows, it’s both. It offers wonderful advantages and awful consequences.
The trick is using it wisely. The more powerful a tool is, the more important it is to use wisely. Atom bombs, for instance; use very wisely!
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I prefer not to use atom bombs at all, but that’s just me Smitty. 😀
Diana xo
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Not even if Bruce Willis needs them to blow up a killer asteroid that’s headed directly towards Earth? 😮
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Depends on the movie… :p
Diana xo
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Yes– we’re blogging and the world has become a smaller place. But it disconnects when overused — phones at the table, televisions/computers on, etc. I know I’m guilty of overuse- walking and looking at my phone, etc. It becomes a hard habit to break.
Nice to go off the grid now and then.
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I agree Lisa. Sometimes, I intentionally leave my house without my phone. ❤
Diana xo
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Modern communication technology can be a God-send. For it connects those in the far corners of the world with the ability to share knowledge and experience. Yet, the draw back is that unless we keep a handle on its appropriate use, what brings a world together can drive families apart.
As much valuable influence that we may gain in communication with those who are far from us, none is as valuable as the love nurtured by an attentive family.
The divides in families caused by modern technology too often never again are bridged.
-Alan
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so true Alan, so very true. ❤
Diana xo
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Both!
It’s all about balance… For me I choose to be present with people in person first. It’s not easy though when the phone is right there!
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I’ve had to turn my phone off or leave it in my purse Val – I’m so easily distracted. ❤
Diana xo
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I hear ya❣
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I think, like many things, it well depend on how we use it. That will be decided by the influence of providers and users. Preferably the more sane and sensible of the second making an effort towards beneficial use. Otherwise the future is left to the less sane and sensible.
Long live live the blog. 😀
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Yes Graham, I love the blogging community too! I suppose the internet is just like anything else, money, power, for example. It can be used for good or bad. ❤
Diana xo
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I feel that it does both, depending on how we use it. Since my family members are spread all over the United States, technology helps us to stay connected through messaging, pictures, etc. It’s an amazing tool for that. In fact, the first time I met one of my sisters was through a social media platform. Then, there are the downfalls – those times when people abuse technology. Such as while having dinner out with friends and loved ones or spending “quality time” at home with family. There is nothing worse than spending that time on a phone or tablet, while ignoring the people who are sitting right next to you.
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Yes mehoami, I agree, one has to take the situation into consideration. ❤
Diana xo
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Mixed feelings. It is a blessing and a curse. I’ve avoided the smart phone thus far, but it can’t be far away. There is a video that went viral nationally of a local woman in my home town who walked straight into a mall fountain while on her phone. She was a mall employee and knew the landscape…still. (She was trying to sue mall management for releasing the security camera footage…not sure how it turned out.) ☺
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I saw that video Van! I have to admit I laughed. 😉 ❤
Diana xo
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It is a paradox — Opportunity/curse… 🙂 I think the consciousness of it helps — but then, I may just be trying to kid myself. My daughters are militant about no phones at the table — they are always calling friends, and family, out on it! I like that about both of them a lot.
Hugs ❤
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Your girls are amazing Louise! ❤
Diana xo
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It is definitely a bit of a paradox? I feel totally connected to old and new friends via the internet but, on the other hand, I am now disconnected from old friends who don’t use the internet – such a dilemma.
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It is Julie. I try to find the balance. I have limited my time online and try to connect with people one on one more. ❤
Diana xo
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