To Love is to Suffer

“To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering, one must not love. But then, one suffers from not loving. Therefore, to love is to suffer; not to love is to suffer; to suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be happy, one must love or love to suffer or suffer from too much happiness.” Woody Allen


Whatever you doUnconditional-Love

Whatever you say

Wherever you go


Before you do it

Before you say it

Before you go there


If you are motivated by anger

Don’t do it

If you are motivated by fear

Don’t say it

If you are motivated by distress

Don’t go there


Will you get hurt?


Will you be betrayed?


Will you be mocked and belittled?


So should you love anyway?

Can your love make a difference to someone who is alone?

Is a life led by love worth the effort?


 Lesson here: just stop over-thinking it!



What’s the worst that could happen?

That through it all you chose to love?


37 thoughts on “To Love is to Suffer

  1. Hello. Love this post and what a great reminder how to start each day and that there is always someone that you can show love to.

    The quote on “unconditional love” rocked me a bit. ‘Unconditional love expects no reward, knows no fear, does not demand’. Even though that is truly what I believed in; with my husband, now I see it is where perhaps I went wrong. Maybe I should have expected a bit more reward, maybe I should have known more fear (or distrust), maybe I should have have demanded more respect.

    Ahh… I see you have covered all that in your post … hurt…… betrayal …belittled….. mocked …..

    “Is a life led by love worth the effort? Absolutely!”
    You are a wonder Diana!

    Unconditional love does not mean having to accept another person’s behaviour.

    I can still chose my own responses in life.
    I can still chose to live by love ….. unconditionally.

    “I am the Master of my fate, I am the Captain of my soul” (Henley)

    Thanks for the post


  2. Wonderfully written Diana!

    It begins with lust (normally)…it matures into love (usually)…and ends in heartbreak (almost always)! Like all drugs, it takes you to an incredible high, but the coming down is horrible…and being without it, is incredibly hard!


  3. The old saying about it being better to love and lose than to never love is quite true, I think. I do absolutely believe in love. (Which is a pretty good trick from the perspective of having it never work out for me, personally! But I still believe in it, totally!!)


  4. I ask the question, can you avoid love.?? I don’t think so and to love is to live… to love ever thing you do see and touch, is to live and be happy… Woody Allen certainly had my head going in circles…. Lovely post Diana…. a good one for me to return from the bush to


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