How To Gather Honey

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200 words, common ground, Community engagement, Diana Schwenk, Diana's Enormous Book of Quotes, gifts, integrity, kindness, life, love, Purpose, Rules of engagement, teamwork

If you want to gather honey, don’t kick over the beehive. -Dale Carnegie

Himalayan Honey Hunter

I’ve heard it said that you can catch more flies with honey than you can with sh*t.

Yet for some reason we often choose the latter approach.

We come into a situation with our own agendas, asserting our views, demanding honey – in affect kicking the hive to make our point.

And we are surprised, or sometimes even hurt, when others fight against us.

It stings!

I mean can’t they see how brilliant our honey hunting idea is?

It’s all in the approach, don’t you think?

I’ve seen it many times in work situations; where it seems impossible to unite a group of people toward a common goal.

The simple truth is that when you show you’ve got someone’s back and you value the gifts that they bring to the table, people begin to have your back and value the gifts you bring to the table.

You can create a safe environment that fosters empowered teams who achieve beautiful things.

It’s the difference between drop-everything-you’re-doing-right-now-and-do-this-thing-for-me-and-make-it-snappy

and

Here’s-the-situation-and-I-immediately-thought-of-you-because-you’re-so-good-at-this-will-you-help-me-carry-out-this-project?

~ DIANA’S ENORMOUS BOOK OF QUOTES ~

Wouldn’t you rather collaborate with willing team members than struggle with resentful ones?

Let Love Rule

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Obedience keeps the rules. Love knows when to break them ~ Anthony de Mello

Focus – structure – rules of engagement – all of these things have their place.

We wouldn’t want everyone running around Willy Nilly.

Would we?

Memorandum of Understanding signing (Photo credit: U.S. Coast Guard)

No, we need to have a common

purpose

and direction

to achieve whatever it is we are trying to do.

It’s a good thing to figure out how…

we will handle conflict when it arises

what we will do in case of an emergency

and what we will do when someone isn’t playing nice.

Rules set healthy parameters for our relationships to each other as…

husband and wife

Sweet Child O Mine (Photo credit: ssh)

parent and child

employer and employee

friend-to-friend.

They serve to build a foundation of trust.

They teach us the difference between right and wrong.

I have no quarrel with that.

My issue with rules arises when we use them…

to prevent us from helping someone who needs us

as an excuse for why we aren’t doing the right thing.

When something isn’t right…

shouldn’t we let love rule?