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200 words, caring, compassion, Diana's Enormous Book of Quotes, kindness, love, Talking to myself
Duane Morse
I have a friend who, whenever I would berate myself, would say, “You don’t have to put yourself down, there are plenty of people waiting in line to do that for you.”
She’s right. There’s no shortage of critics in this world. There’s always going to be someone who doesn’t like the way you do something.
More importantly, if you are always hearing that you’re no good or that you’re stupid or any variation of ‘you don’t measure up,‘ it could become something you start to believe.
So you don’t need to hear it from yourself
Sure there are times when each of us have done things, knowing they were wrong, and have had to come to terms with our actions and make amends – that’s not what I’m talking about here.
Think of it this way: If someone you know was getting ready to do their taxes and they couldn’t find their T4 form, because they didn’t put it in the proper file, would you start calling them a stupid idiot? No?
I guess I should stop calling myself that then, eh?
~ DIANA’S ENORMOUS BOOK OF QUOTES ~
Maybe replace them with beautiful, warm-hearted woman. Diana. I started reading Louise Hays many years ago when I use to give myself a hard time. Replaced bad thoughts about myself with positive affirmations. Now I rarely call myself anything other than a human being trying to do her best. Some days she falls short, some days she doesn’t. Hope today is a grand day.
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Thanks Kath, that’s a great way to look at it! ❤
Diana xo
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“Ah (I say to myself), the reason I can’t find my tax form (keys / scissors / refund cheque) is because I have been very busy paying my bills / writing / scanning my photos (or whatever). It is GREAT that I am achieving all those wonderful things, but I COULD try to keep my desk tidier OR take some time out to tidy it up and then, when I do that I feel calmer anyway.” What I mean by that is (when talking to myself) there is a fine line between not talking myself down and striving for self-improvement. To self-improve, I have to at least acknowledge the weaknesses that are there.
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You seem to have that knack for keeping balance Elizabeth – good for you! ❤
Diana xo
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Diana, you’re definitely not stupid, but you do have a wonderful sense of humour. My self-talk has become more gracious over the years; perhaps hearing myself encourage others has taught me to encourage myself while I’m at it?
Blessings on your weekend ~ Wendy
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and blessings on yours, Wendy! ❤
Diana xo
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This post is a great reminder that it’s important how we talk to ourselves.
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Yes Sheryl, we should be at least as kind to ourselves as we are to others. ❤
Diana xo
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My father says talking to yourself says you have money in the bank.. ha ha.
I’m finding I’m talking to myself more and more each year… one way to keep track of my to-do list!
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But do you have more money in the bank Lisa? ❤
Diana xo
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It really is a practice to change the way we speak to ourselves. Most people aren’t aware of the self judgment. Awareness is the first step to become free.
🎈 Let it go. It isn’t the truth!
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Well said Val! ❤
Diana xo
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A lot of wisdom here…
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Thanks David. ❤
Diana xo
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I like many can say some terrible things to myself, I am trying to learn not to be so hard on myself
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It’s hard to stop, isn’t it Jo-Anne? ❤
Diana xo
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Great reminder Diana and a very important message. 🙂
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Thanks Karen. My mom often does this and I keep telling her not to and then I find that I do it too. 😉
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Yes it’s definitely a learned belief pattern and takes years to break it!
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It is true I do say sometimes I am stupid when something goes wrong, but really we shouldn’t do that. I will think of you next time I do that….😊
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You’re anything but stupid Ute. We’ll both get better at it with practice, right? ❤
Diana xo
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We will Diana, I am sure! Thanks my friend. ❤
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No, I would not call you that. And yes, you should stop! 🙂 ❤
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haha, I just gave myself shit for telling myself that Colleen. 😀 ❤
Diana o
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Good thing to do Diana. No one gives ourselves shit better than ourselves. ❤
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Ain’t that the truth!
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Hi Diana,
There is a big lesson I got taught from Myself : Argue with that part of yourself that talks down to you, devalues you and make you feel “stupid. The results? From hilarious to serious! Try it, I dare you!
Zaria
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haha oh I already do that Zaria. It’s most hilarious when I discover someone else is listening with a raised eyebrow! ❤
Diana xo
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I hear what you’re – I’m saying…sage wisdom.
Dan
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Thanks Dan. ❤
Diana xo
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Stop calling yourself that! Call yourself what I call you — a wonderful, thoughtful, creative, supportive, and all-around fabulous person.
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(smiling) Thank you Ann. ❤
Diana xo
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Such truth. Be careful how you talk to yourself. You might start believing it. ❤️ 💛 💙 💜
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Right? Thanks Van. ❤
Diana xo
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