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If you want to gather honey, don’t kick over the beehive. -Dale Carnegie
I’ve heard it said that you can catch more flies with honey than you can with sh*t.
Yet for some reason we often choose the latter approach.
We come into a situation with our own agendas, asserting our views, demanding honey – in affect kicking the hive to make our point.
And we are surprised, or sometimes even hurt, when others fight against us.
It stings!
I mean can’t they see how brilliant our honey hunting idea is?
It’s all in the approach, don’t you think?
I’ve seen it many times in work situations; where it seems impossible to unite a group of people toward a common goal.
The simple truth is that when you show you’ve got someone’s back and you value the gifts that they bring to the table, people begin to have your back and value the gifts you bring to the table.
You can create a safe environment that fosters empowered teams who achieve beautiful things.
It’s the difference between drop-everything-you’re-doing-right-now-and-do-this-thing-for-me-and-make-it-snappy
and
Here’s-the-situation-and-I-immediately-thought-of-you-because-you’re-so-good-at-this-will-you-help-me-carry-out-this-project?
~ DIANA’S ENORMOUS BOOK OF QUOTES ~
Wouldn’t you rather collaborate with willing team members than struggle with resentful ones?
Always behind reading posts but this one made me smile Diana. A really good message to start ones day, i thank you.
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Thanks so much Kath! ❤
Diana xo
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Yes and yes, Diana. Teams are only good as every single member!
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Yes, I agree Mark. ❤
Diana xo
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This gave me a real buzz!
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Clever Julie! 😉
Diana xo
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This makes so much sense–and is so true. I also liked the Dale Carnegie quote that you used at the beginning of this post. I’d never heard it before.
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Thanks so much Sheryl – glad you enjoyed it! ❤
Diana xo
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Being on the same page is always most necessary on a team. So long as all are focused on the goal the problems encountered should be only those which are related to the task at hand.
Pride is the unnecessary and unwanted intangible that often is the cause of failed projects.
-Alan
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Yes pride comes before the fall… Thanks for chiming in Alan! ❤
Diana xo
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Although I’ve always heard I t as “you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar… ” thinking that your version with “sh*t” would actually be more attractive to flies; ). But, to your point, it’s always nicer to be asked, than told… N’est pas?
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And, oh my god, that’s a LOT of bees!!! Give me my coveralls and veil with safety-toed booties set firmly on the ground, thank you very much; )
Oh, and whether you kick the hive, or not those bees are gonna be pissed, y’all!
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Really? I’ve seen some pretty calm bees in the hands of beekeepers on documentaries, but yeah they still wear all that gear!
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Yes, come to think of it Deb, it is vinegar, I think my family turned it into sh*t ahahaha
oh and oui c’est vrai! ❤
Diana xo
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Bees are normally calm when you’re working (and they’re working; ) and it’s a nice, sunny day… But they don’t like it (this time of year) when the flowers start to slow down and there’s a lot of them hanging around (with nothing to do): and you start to take away their hard-gotten stores of honey. And, of course, some hives are feistier than others…
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Are you a beekeeper Deb?
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: )
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LOL, is that a yes? 😉
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Lol, currently hiveless; but yup, once a beekeeper, always a beekeeper… It gets in the blood, y’know (and honey’s definitely thicker than water; )
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I love honey and there are so many benefits to eating local honey!
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Yup, you betcha! I always know when ragweed starts to bloom, if I haven’t been having honey on my toast; )
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I forgot to mention that photo! OMG I am so appreciative of our abundance here, and walking into a supermarket to get my honey. I won’t forget this image.
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Yeah, no kidding eh? And me, I’m so afraid of heights! 😉
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Wise words Diana. I think we have all had these approaches in our life and I know what works for me! I try the second approach with the kids, but sometimes that doesnt work either ha! Happy Monday. 🙂
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Ha! Not for the parents Karen but I bet the parents of their friends think your kids are pretty special! ❤
Diana xo
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Hell yes so many people open their mouth and shit comes out and they wonder why the bees sting the hell out of them
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I’ve done it too Jo-Anne, try not to but ya know… ❤
Diana xo
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Collaboration over battle ANY day Diana! 🙂
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I’m with you Colleen! ❤
Diana xo
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True words, if only people followed it more often.
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I guess that’s what makes us human Lisa, right? We all screw up at times. 🙂 ❤
Diana xo
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How to win friends and influence people…Carnegie said that as well. If only folks followed that wise advice. ☺
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Yes, if only Van. ❤
Diana xo
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Making people feel good about using their talents (and even acknowledging they have them) is a mark of great leadership. That’s what is so great about you. You bring out the best in others. 🙂
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Elizabeth – thank you – I sure hope that is consistently true. ❤
Diana xo
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Those last lines in your post Diana, the two approaches, are at the heart of creating community and energizing people. Imagine if we all followed the second, what gifts we’d be to one another.
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We are of one mind and heart on that one Don, yes, just imagine! ❤
Diana xo
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One thing is for sure. You can collect more bears with honey than you’d like. 🙂
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Haha – too funny Don! ❤
Diana xo
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There are so many lessons for me here…
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That’s great David! Please share one? ❤
Diana xo
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A perfect analogy, Diana. Funny how the simplest truths are the most effective sometimes. 🙂
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Isn’t it though, Jennifer? Thanks for chiming in! ❤
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So very true, Diana!!
I like your analogy 🙂
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Thanks so much Denise. ❤
Diana xo
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