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Wherever you go, take yourself with you ~ Lolly Daskal
You know what’s really hard to do?
Trying to guess and do what would please someone else, even if it’s something you wouldn’t normally do – that’s what!
Not only does it make you feel awkward, most times it doesn’t work. It’s true what they say, people can spot a phony a mile away!
The mal effects go beyond that one circumstance as well. Because if you do this often with a variety of people; you will appear flighty and inconsistent to others.
And inconsistency is percieved as a lack of integrity. Being a person with integrity requires you to be the same on the outside as you are on the inside. It means that people who know you can predict how you will respond to a given situation.
The truth is you cannot possibly please everyone anyway. But chances are you’ll gain more respect from others by being consistently true to yourself and your values, than you will by pretending to be someone else.
In the end, it just makes more sense to bring yourself everywhere you go.
– DIANA’S ENORMOUS BOOK OF QUOTES –
Do you bring yourself everywhere you go?
Wendy L. Macdonald said:
Yes, I love the wisdom in this post, Diana. People are willing to respect those they don’t necessarily agree with if they see consistency and goodwill.
Blessings & hugs ~ Wendy
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dianasschwenk said:
Well put Wendy, thank you! ❤
Diana xo
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earthriderjudyberman said:
Diana … I’m singing “I got to be me, I got to be me … ” I’ve found over the years that some people just don’t cotton to me. That used to bother me a lot. It still bugs me, but not as much. And I’m not going to go thru a metamorphosis for everyone I meet. Thanks for your wise words. 😉
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dianasschwenk said:
I’m with you on that Judy! ❤
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Minuscule Moments said:
Diana i use to try and please everyone but as i have aged I am getting better at bringing my true self to the front, shortcomings and all.
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dianasschwenk said:
It’s so freeing, isn’t it Kath? ❤
Diana xo
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Minuscule Moments said:
It sure is, with old age comes such wisdom and I am more my true self than ever and comfortable with it.
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dianasschwenk said:
Good for you Kath!
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Alan A. Malizia: Contagious Optimism! Co-Author said:
Very true, Diana.
What you see is what you get. Only in a person who when he removes his mask shows no difference.
-Alan
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dianasschwenk said:
Which is linked to our willingness/courage to be vulnerable in a way, wouldn’t you agree, Alan? ❤
Diana xo
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Alan A. Malizia: Contagious Optimism! Co-Author said:
I agree.
-Alan
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markbialczak said:
The truth works best, Diana, and you speak it so well! ❤ This is a quote in your book that goes a long way to making life easier every day. Great one, my dear friend.
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dianasschwenk said:
Thank you so much Mark. ❤
Diana xo
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Wyrd Smythe said:
“Do you bring yourself everywhere you go?”
Only if I’ve been behaving and eating my vegetables. Otherwise I leave myself locked up in the attic. It’s safer for everyone that way…
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dianasschwenk said:
You’re always behaving…aren’t you, Smitty? ❤
Diana xo
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Wyrd Smythe said:
Hmmm… define “behaving”… For that matter, define “always”… XD
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dianasschwenk said:
LOL Acting from a place of authenticity most of the time… how’s that?
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Wyrd Smythe said:
Well, now that I do try to be guilty of as much as possible. 😀
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Val Boyko said:
I love this post and the quote Diana! Isn’t it grand when we grow up and become our real selves! 😎
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dianasschwenk said:
T’is grand indeed Val. Wishing I had been born with it instinctually but that’s what life’s about, right? It’s a journey that teaches us things… 🙂
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Val Boyko said:
It sure does. I recall the teachers who taught be about integrity and being authentic … they were such amazing people and role models. I am forever grateful for them!
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Brigitte said:
I have learned time after time it’s ALWAYS best to be one’s self even if it may upset or anger. When you’re true to yourself, things always work out for the best — for all concerned. Besides, when one isn’t authentic, it shows.
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dianasschwenk said:
I think so too Brigitte. ❤
Diana xo
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Jean said:
The thing is that when it comes to working with a manager..is finding a way of not compromising on integrity but toeing the line without losing a job.
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dianasschwenk said:
There is a balance, isn’t there Jean? I bet you excel at it! ❤
Diana xo
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Jean said:
Yea, sure. Something I wish for always.
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Jennifer's Journal said:
As mentioned above, I think it’s a woman thing, mostly. But I do try, now that I’m older and wiser! xo
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dianasschwenk said:
Me too, Jennifer, that’s the blessing of getting older! ❤
Diana xo
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Jennifer's Journal said:
And the reward. ❤
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dianasschwenk said:
and reward, yes!
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russtowne said:
That sounds like good advice to me, Diana, and I love the quote.
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dianasschwenk said:
It’s a good one, isn’t it Russ – thanks! ❤
Diana xo
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Chatter Master said:
Oh I try Diana! I do. I believe in “You can not have integrity some of the time”. Thank you!
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dianasschwenk said:
You do a darn good job of it Colleen! ❤
Diana xo
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rachelcarrera said:
This is true. 🙂
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dianasschwenk said:
It’s definitely been my experience Rachel. ❤
Diana xo
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Ian Munro @ leadingessentially.com said:
I love this. As I read it I thought that this also could have been titled “Authenticity “.
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dianasschwenk said:
I actually went back and forth on that Ian! ❤
Diana xo
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Don Royster said:
I like the Buckaroo Bonzai quote: “No matter where you are, there you are.”
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dianasschwenk said:
Ha! that’s a great quote Don! ❤
Diana xo
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Don said:
Now that is a magnificent quote Diana, and a marvellous description of what integrity is all about.
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dianasschwenk said:
Thank you very much Don. ❤
Diana xo
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vanbytheriver said:
Always. Now. But there was a time…that people pleasing trend was learned early in life, and very hard to break. The most interesting thing to me is that when I started being true to myself, I attracted a lot more people into my life than when I was merely trying to please them. Ironic ?? Great, thoughtful post, as always, Diana. Thanks for always turning us inside for a bit. ☺ Van
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dianasschwenk said:
Same here Van! Thanks for dropping by and checking. ❤
Diana xo
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elizabeth2560 said:
I am moving into this. For a long time I lived by trying to please other people and making myself what I thought would please them. You are right. It doesn’t work.
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dianasschwenk said:
It might be a woman thing Elizabeth! ❤
Diana xo
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joannerambling said:
Many of us when we are young go around trying to please others, to make others happy when all we can do is be happy ourselves and be ourselves and hopefully happiness with follow and if a person truly cares for you they will like who you are without you trying to make them happy and yes it took me a while to get this
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dianasschwenk said:
It took me a while to get it too Jo-Anne! ❤
Diana xo
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Healing Grief said:
It does makes sense Diana. Being true to ourselves helps everyone, and requires much less energy than pleasing others! Great post. 🙂
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dianasschwenk said:
So true, thanks Karen! ❤
Diana xo
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jmgoyder said:
I have never thought of it like this! Thank you for this insight.
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dianasschwenk said:
You’re welcome and thank you Julie! ❤
Diana xo
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