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The other day my friend sent me a text, “Google 36 questions that lead to love…”

“Nah,” I texted back.

“I know you will!” she shot back.

The next day, she popped by.


“Well What?”

“Did you google the 36 question thing?”

“Nope, forgot all about it,” I said.

To make a long story short, I ended up grabbing my laptop while she was here and googling the said article. It states that asking a particular set of questions will expedite the mutual falling in love of you and the person sitting across from you.

Not someone you know, mind you, but a complete stranger!

The article states that once you’ve gone through the questions you must look into each others eyes for four minutes. Geesh – that’s a long time to be looking at someone. I mean there have been times when I warm up my coffee in the microwave and before the microwave pings that one minute has passed, I’ve accomplished three tasks!

I do like the questions though and here are some of my favourites. To read the complete article and all 36 questions from the NY Times, click here.

Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?

What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?

If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?

Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.

If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?

Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?

If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?

Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share … “

What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?

If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?

Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.

Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how he or she might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

I can see how this exercise would help you to really get to know someone. But fall in love? Really? And some of these questions would be hard enough to discuss with someone I trust, let alone a complete stranger!

What do you think?


Can you picture yourself going over these questions with a complete stranger? Can you even imagine that someone would be up to trying this? Can asking the right questions really accelerate falling in love? What made you fall in love with your partner?

The 36 Questions That Lead To Love as seen in the NY Times